¿Expectations? Make Them Useful.

  • Do you use stress to be productive?
  • Do you get stuck learning complex things?
  • Do you feel like you’re not making progress fast enough?

What if by demanding less you could advance more?

I’ve always found it fascinating how some people advance more in weeks or months than others in years. What do they do differently? In what way do they think? What habits do they have?

This has led me to search, study, ask, and test different strategies in my life. The most interesting thing?

Many of the answers are quite counterintuitive.

And the way of managing expectations is one of them.

ONE OF THE MISTAKES THAT MANY PEOPLE MAKE IS NOT THAT WE EXPECT TOO LITTLE, BUT THAT WE EXPECT TOO MUCH OF WHAT WE CAN DO IN A DETERMINED AMOUNT OF TIME.

At least for the short term.

We demand too much from ourself in the short term and with that we lose the oportunity to create what we want in the long run.

Most people overestimante what they can do in a year and undersestimate what they can do in a decade. 

And, if you take a closer look, do you know what this turns out to be?

You may be overestimating how much you can achieve with the next hour of your time and underestimating what you can achieve in 10 years, even if you demanded less of yourself in the short term.

If your expectations are causing you stress, they are not serving you.

If your expectations are getting you stuck, they are not serving you.

If wanting to write the perfect memo, prepare the perfect Speech, learn this skill in a record-braking time is frustrating you, this way of thinking is not being useful to you..

I was able to verify it myself when I was studying my degree in mathematics, whenever I tried to perform in an impressive way, (with the false belief that the more I demanded, the more I would give), I ended up lowering my performance. When I accepted that the game was about focus, persistence and being methodical I started to multiply my results.

Yes, some times the way towards success, is more tedious and less movie-like than what it looks like from the outside.

There are moments when radically lowering your expectations is what allows you to get big things in the long haul. Cause it keeps you moving.

Any way of thinking that prevents or blocks taking action on what you know you should do, it’s a way of thinking that it’s not serving you.

What can you do then?

  1. Analyze your life as a whole. Avoid the short-term trap. Even if you make the world’s worst ridiculous or take three times more than what you thought to do this project, are the long-term results worth it?
  2. Are you generating a non-optimal state for yourself? Stress, discouragement, or blockage are common suspects. What if you radically lower your expectations?

Your expectations (the what, how and when you expect something to happen) are a mental construct. You create them, consciously or unconsciously.

They are within your control zone and if you learn to manage them you will multiply your performance while lowering your stress levels.

That sounds like a good deal, right?

If you want to know more about this and understand it from the perspective of NLP, I leave you with the following YouTube video in which I explain it to you:

Congratulations on making it this far!

Before leaving, remember the following: It is not about lowering your expectations always and in everything. It’s about you realizing that you have the option to download them and that this option in many cases will be very useful.

Flexibility is the key.

Now, as you already know:

Nothing ever happens, if don’t take action!

  1.  In which 3 areas of your life are you going to apply this strategy?
  2.  How and when are you going to do it?

Leave it to me in the comments.

See you soon,

Clara